This week we interview Emily Deans, M.D. aka the “Evolutionary Psychiatrist” to get a medical perspective on recovery and detox. Emily is a board certified adult psychiatrist practicing in Massachusetts. The overarching theory she explores is that our bodies and brains do best in conditions for which they are evolved. She digs up scientific information and presents it in that context. She feels that by studying evolutionary medicine, we come closer to the answers for optimal conditions for health and vitality. You can find Dr. Emily Deans on Psychology Today.
Daniel Pardi, CEO of Dan’s Plan, is an entrepreneur and researcher whose life’s work is centered on how to facilitate health behaviors in others. He is the developer of Loop Model to Sustain Health Behaviors to help people live a healthy lifestyle in a modern world. He does research with the Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences Department at Stanford, and the Departments of Neurology and Endocrinology at Leiden University in the Netherlands. His current research looks at how sleep influences decision making. Follow him @dansplanhealth.
Resentment – a feeling of anger or displeasure about someone or something unfair (1).
As addicts and alcoholics, nothing can lead us down the road to drinking, using and other forms of self-medication, like a good old-fashioned resentment! You know, those pesky feelings that creep up, day in and day out, as we replay situations over and over again in our heads, until they no longer portray what actually happened. In result, we wind up either feel so pathetically sorry for ourselves or reduce ourselves to such a degree of anger, that we could spit (as my mom would say). Continue reading How to Escape the Grips of Resentments and Harmful Expectations
Sixteen years ago, on 4/20/1999, as everyone was glued to their televisions watching the devastating aftermath of the Columbine shootings, my little world was changing forever as well. That day I awoke from what used to be called a “crank coma,” meaning a meth and alcohol withdrawal-induced, dead to the world sleep, in a jail cell. Yep, that’s where my addiction took me…locked up with the key thrown away for quite a while. Continue reading Susan’s Tips for Long-Term Sobriety
In any addict’s life there is a time when the addiction is so consuming that they have to make a decision to either let go of the addiction or risk losing what is precious to them. For parents in addiction, we risk losing our children. Perhaps it’s losing them physically because they are taken away or we let them go because we are incapable of caring for them. Although we may not lose them physically, living with our addiction damages our emotional relationship with them. As a mother of four daughters I can attest to the latter.
“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” ― Bruce Lee
The old me was nothing like water. I fought everything I came into contact with whether I was in active addiction or just a dry drunk. The drug I loved most -sober or not- was control. Self will run riot to the extreme. My anger and control wreaked so much havoc in my life that I ended up laying in a hospital bed dying in 2010. That was one of the many bottoms that would lead me to a way of life with tools to become more like water. Continue reading Be Like Water…